As a parent of two kids who I love more than anything, I can’t relate to the people who call me and want to give up their parental rights. But it happens. A lot. The reasons for it vary.
- Some people have never had a relationship with their child and don’t want to stand in the way of a new spouse adopting them. Ok, that makes sense I guess.
- Others are just fed up when it comes to fighting for visitation and are basically giving up because they are sick of the process. I try to encourage those people not to give up. When you let go of your parental rights it is a final decision that is not reversible. So if you regret it down the road well that is just too bad.
-But the biggest reason people call us to give up their parental rights is because they think they have found a loophole that will get them out of having to pay child support. Unfortunately for them, they are wrong. Child support is a separate issue and unless you get your ex to agree in the termination of rights order that child support is done with, you still have an obligation to pay. If your ex is on Public Aid, they may come after you anyway to be reimbursed what they have paid out.
Many custodial parents are thrilled to let their ex give up their rights because they want to know that if they were to die that their ex can’t take custody. Others simply want to get out of a bad relationship. So if your goal is to get out of child support by giving up your parental rights, we don’t necessarily agree with it, but the proper way to do it is to agree on all issues with your ex and have them entered in to the courts. But remember, giving up is final, not reversible. You lose all say in seeing your child, their education, health, religion, etc. It’s as if you have no existence as far as they are concerned. Make sure that you have considered all of that before you sign on the dotted line.
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